Differences between Introvert and Extrovert
Extroverts are people who are usually energized whenever they are with other people around them. They love people, and they appreciate the moments shared with friends and family. Some people will love them back genuinely, while others may only love them since they offer audiences. Extroverts are funny, warm, and energetic though sometimes they can be so demanding because they enjoy being the center of attention. Extroverts find it easy to establish a bond with new people and they get along well with almost everyone.
Extroverts need to be stimulated from time to time since they can be bored very quickly. Repeating the same thing frequently turns them off unless they are having fun or they are paying attention. They have a low concentration span, especially when they are working alone compared to introverts. It makes them happy whenever they share their thoughts even if the thoughts have not been well internalized. They can suggest something, which is least expected it sometimes it is very easy for them to change their minds. Extroverts usually have a wider circle of friends, they get along well with their family members, and much of their energy is put into those relationships (Freyd 30).
Contrary to extroverts, introverts are intrinsically motivated. They are preoccupied with their thought and feelings; hence, they minimize contact with other people. Introverts are limited to the people they love, and sometimes they only love a few people. They get annoyed easily and even when a relative visits them without prior notice, they tend to be stressed even if they are not interfering with their activities. Introverts do not like attention from the crowd unless they know the people in the gathering. They are usually contented sitting in a group and listening without saying much. They may be having a good time, even if their participation is low. In fact, less participation does not mean that they are shy; they are just who they are. Their shyness may be connected to a negative event that took place when they were young. Some extroverts are shy but not as much as the introverts.
Indeed, introverts are centered in their world, and they are unaware of what is taking place around them. They can read a book in a noisy place since they can shut themselves from the world. Therefore, they have the ability to concentrate on things that interest them. They are not usually involved in groups, but they tend to pursue their time and hobbies when they are alone. In addition, introverts are slow in developing relationships, but when they do, they develop a strong one that can last forever. Their friends circle is quite small, and they have friends whom they can do anything for through the years. Introverts will only speak of an idea that they have put some thought for quite some time until they are sure. In essence, they are not comfortable to discuss issues they are not sure about (Freyd 77). Therefore, it is clear that introverts are not forthcoming with their activities and tend to take their time in what they do.
Negative Sides of the Extroverts and Introverts
The extroverts are usually reserved, and they appear as if they do not care about others or their feelings. They may be seated in a group discussion without contributing, and ask questions that may depict them as being rude. Extroverts are usually misunderstood, and sometimes people think they are flirting due to their ability to strike a conversation and getting comfortable with almost everyone regardless of the time they have been together. The extroverts consider it normal, but when they realize they are misinterpreted, they feel heartbroken and disheartened. They are always expected to be happy, and people have much expectation about them, especially when they require assistance from them. When they are upset, the people close to them do not understand, and sometimes they usually take offense. In fact, whenever they are expected to keep the conversation going. At times, it proves to be a challenge since they also need to take a break and let other people take over.
Extroverts are not intellectually gifted because they rarely find time to read since it is hard for them to concentrate on one thing. In fact, they do things without taking too much time as opposed to introverts. Extroverts will always crave to spend time with other people. They may enjoy some time alone, but they flourish more in the presence of other people so they may constantly be looking for interactions and share some quality time. Extroverts are usually mistaken for being confident, however, given that they being around other people does not necessarily translate into being confident.
On the contrary, introverts have some of their negative sides. They usually worry about people who may not like them, including their best friends. Because they keep their life private, they may find it difficult to make friends since they do not share their thoughts and emotions. In a workplace or social setup, they may feel left because they are not able to make their contribution, a situation that make them withdraw further. Since most of them do not want to be seen as boastful or arrogant, they are very reluctant in talking about what they have achieved. Introverts find it difficult to hold people accountable due to the fear of a confrontation that may dent their relationship with the other person. Most of the above negative sides of an introvert make it difficult for them to work in sales or the entertainment industry (Freyd 71-75). Introversion is not an issue, but the perception that people have towards concerning their efficiency.
Negative aspects of Introverts and Extroverts
As discussed above, it is worth noting that the extroverts and introverts have different personalities. The personality may explain why people do not have the same attitude and behaviors. In fact, from the discussion above, it is palpable that both the introverts and the extroverts have different characteristics or aspects. Introverts enjoy being alone compared to extroverts who feel complete when they spend much of their time with other people. If an introvert takes an interest in a given topic, they get serious about it and discuss the matter in depth paying full attention as opposed to extroverts who will lose their concentration in a short time.
The introverts may not talk much, but they have very good listening skills. They do not like conflicts, especially with the people closest to them. On the other hand, extroverts are assertive and can be mistaken for being rude, but they just speak their mind. Whenever they are upset, the introverts may shy away from other people, and they chose to stay alone until they rebuild up, and initiate things that make them happy. They have the ability to express themselves through writing rather than speaking.
When introverts and extroverts are compared, it is observable that extroverts spend most of their time with friends and families. The extroverts are always there in huge gatherings where they demonstrate a lot of energy in any activity they are involved in. However, they have poor listening skills, and they tend to talk much. Extroverts may not be attention seekers, though they enjoy being the center of attraction. It is worth appreciating that extroverts are more enthusiastic than introverts. Notably, they are easily distracted as opposed to introverts who can pay attention to any activity that interest them. Extroverts love working in groups where they can help each other and easily accomplish a given task (Loehken and Sylvia 29).
As it is evident from the discussion, the introverts, and the extroverts differ a lot in their personalities, and they can almost be defined as the opposite of each other. The study has demonstrated that both of their characters may be misinterpreted depending on the perception of the observer. It is clear that the different personalities cannot be merged since they seem to expect or do what the other is not bound to do by their personality. However, despite the differences, it is possible for the introverts and extroverts to work together and achieve amazing results.
Freyd, M. “Introverts and Extroverts.” Psychological Review 31.1 (1924) : 74-87. Print.
Loehken, Sylvia. The Power of Personality: How Introverts and Extroverts Can Combine to Amazing Effect. 2015. Print.